Open minded vs validation

Found an old rant i never posted:

We all know this situation, like when you meet someone new, you validate everything he/she says. Yet you don't want to sound judgmental, so you have to keep an open mind. That's what have been working for me so far.
You can only be open minded to a certain extent. Even though you don't want to be judgemental, and don't want to be too rude. The reason is, that you don't want to lose yourself as a person. You can't love everything someone else like, and not everything someone else does is excellent. Of course, this can happen if you don't have your own opninion, but so far I haven't met any who doesn't.

Needless to say being honest doesn't mean u are not open minded. Being open minded simply means you are open to opinion or ideas. In order to be yourself you have to have an open mind to new ideas and yet don't lose yourself. Form ideas, visions and share them with others. If u stay open minded and willing to spare with others
to sharpen your mind, people will respect you for that. If you are able to defend your own stand point that people will respect you even more!

iPhone 4 post

Not the most interesting post. Just testing if blogpress works on my phone. This way I might blog during my travels.
I guess an iPhone and android makes life easier for a casual blogger like me. It's easy to upload pictures, I can blog from anywhere and even the apps seem convenient and easy to use.
It makes me wonder what the future might bring. Basically, we can videolog from anywhere nowadays.
I guess we we'll see what the future has in store for us.



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Insomnia, Norah Jones, and other rambling

Hey all,

It has been aged since I touched this page. I haven't blogged for so long. Somehow I feel like blogging tonight. It's just that I had some weird argument with someone important to me, and now we are not really on speaking terms. It's ironic that it takes such a moment to help me blog again.

I guess blogging helps me set my mind straight. There are a few choices I have to make in life. Either pursue my dream for a carreer i've always been thirsty about. Not that I pursue particulair carreer, but somehow I always have this urge to be more, and do more than I do today.

I also realise that I need to be a stronger, and bigger person. Well, not in physical form, but mentally. Not that I worry about the way I am, but in order to grow as a person, I need to become mentally stronger. Also I need to present myself better. I realise that I do care about connecting with people, but with some people I just don't seem to connect. Of course, there are always those I can't relate too, but even so, I want to challenge that! Needless to say, I also want to know why it doesn't work out.

And there's also love. I rather not blog about it, but it does give me head aches hahaha. Then again such is life.

Somehow I love to listen Norah Jones while I ramble. Her voice is so soft, while her music so simple, and clean. There's certain beauty in her music.
Most people are rather surprised that a guy like me, knows to admire Norah Jones. It's not that unique actually. I'm pretty sure.. at this moment there are tons of guys listening to 'come away with me' while typing their blog. Hah, ok maybe less than that, but it's just hard to imagine that there are no guys out there that like Norah Jones.

Enough ramblings for tonight. Another big day is waiting for me tomorrow. Ok, nothing special is going to happen, but hey.. who knows.. maybe some whale might swim into my office tomorrow., huh?

BTW.. I've been a real jerk today. If u read this.. wish me luck. I don't want to be one anymore... and I want to make it up!
Thanks in advance!

Take care folks!

I'll be back!

Coming soon....

Jazzy mood

Lately, I seem to get the sunday blues more often. Especially when I decide to have a relaxed sunday eve.

I'm not sure what it is. Maybe I'm becoming a more people person, and lack the people around me, when I stay home on a sunday evening.

I realised that music helps me through the sundays. Especially jazz and blues. I love Elvis Costello, but especially Diana Krall. She got this soft, sexy jazzy voice, that ease my feelings.

Music is a good remedy, but books too. I love to read through my sundays. Since I have to limit my urge for coffee and red wine, I decide I should replace these drinks with Chinese tea.

I sometimes wonder how other people spend their "me" time on sunday. It took me quite awhile to feel comfortable on a sunday eve. And nowadays, I totally love my sunday evenings.

Ok, I guess I should go back to Chet Baker and my Chinese tea. Currently I'm reading Masterful Coaching, and it will most probably keep me company for awhile.

And not to forget,

Happy new year everyone!

First steps

As I take my first steps into the world of leadership, I realised that I've always been rather naive. A new world opened to me, but surprisingly this world has always been around the corner. I've never taken a peek around this corner, so I've always been oblivious to this vast world out there.

Recently, I started realised that every man needs a little time for himself, so that he's able to look back what he has achieved. At the same time, he can take his chances to look forward as well. Basically we all need a moment when we can be a hermit, and retreat ourselves into our secret hideout.

Figurative speaking of course, in real it usually simply means doing things we really enjoy. Some people like to walk in the woods, while I personally dives into books, while enjoying my coffee. I might enjoy walk in the woods, but the problem is that there are no woods around me. At least not at cycle distance. Next to reading, I love to jog around the lake. I have to admit that I'm somewhat lazy lately, and I know that I'm gradually gaining weight again (but that's another story :P). Bottom line is, we all have our own way to find ourselves again. A little time to think about the past and what's ahead.

This is important as a leader too. We can't stay level headed forever, so we need to retreat ourselves in order to look forward from time to time. It's the same in life. If we don't look forward from time to time, we will be led by life, while we are the one suppose to be leading the life. As a manager you will become a victim of the daily routines, and all the "priorities" of daily/weekly activities. Instead of you being the one to manage things, you will be managed by all these necessities. Therefore we need our time to look advance, and beyond. Maybe way beyond. That way we can set our course in career, life, and business. That way we will be able to take control of life again, instead of being led by it. Once our path is set, we will get back to the right track again...

So much for the new journey

Not too long ago I've promised myself to centre myself a little. So far I haven't been doing very well.

Problem is, in a modern busy life, it's hard to keep promises you made to yourself. Before you know you are behind on schedule with everything. New jobs, new relations, new friends they keep following each other up, making you forget the promise you made to yourself.

That's why I realise why we sometimes need a little "me" time. Especially when you seem to lag behind with everything, that's when you need a pause. I'm not the meditating kind of person, neither would I take a sabbatical leave. I realise I find myself more easily when I'm comfortable with myself. That means reading on a couch, with a nice cup of espresso.

I also promised myself to blog more. It seems like I think more about everything when I take some spare time off to blog about random things.

I also should sport more. Next to the fact that I'm getting fat. It also seems like I'm somewhat lacking energy.

Bottom line is, is that I need to take some time away from everything, every now and then. Or else I might get stuck in the maze of road ahead.

Life is hectic, life is a maze, but when you are able to take your time, and think things over, you might find that one road you need to walk on, and it might be very evident and clear to you.

Oh well... I guess it's time to stop my ramblings and get my @rse moved.